“At this point, we are living one of the greatest experiments in humankind – to create something that has, throughout history, been considered a contradiction in terms – a passionate marriage. Passion has always existed, but it took place somewhere else. Everything that we wanted from a traditional marriage – companionship, family, children, economic support, a best friend, a passionate lover, a trusted confidante, an intellectual equal – we are asking from one person what an entire village once provided. And couples are crumbling under the weight of so much expectation.”
“Very often we don’t go elsewhere because we are looking for another person. We go elsewhere because we are looking for another self. It isn’t so much that we want to leave the person we are with as we want to leave the person we have become.”
– Esther Perel
Whether you are married, in a civil partnership, living together or apart – are gay, lesbian, bisexual, heterosexual or transgender, we are here to help you with whatever relationship problems you may have.
Couples therapy can help people understand why their relationship is in distress or why they feel distant from their partner. It can clarify, for example, why both halves of a relationship might be feeling under stress or that the lines of communication have broken down. Sometimes it is to deal with a sexual difficulty between partners or to help cope with losses that have yet to be mourned. Sometimes it is important to think together about what is going on and to make links to patterns of relating that will have started when both partners were very young, perhaps replicating or rejecting aspects of life in their families of origin.
We understand that relationships can be difficult to navigate through and we have extensive experience working with couples as they move through life transitions.
We take into consideration the cultural context in which we are living and the explicit and implicit messages we receive day in and day out, which are often confusing and contradicting.
We offer a safe space where we can explore what outcomes each of you desire from your relationship. This will give each of you an opportunity to understand the other’s point of view, as well as having your point of view understood, whilst at the same time connecting with the different feeling states associated. This forms the start of the process of moving towards finding more helpful ways of communicating that work for both of you.
Please find below a list of some of the areas we regularly work with when counselling couples:
• Sexual problems
• Cross-cultural difficulties & adjustments
• Financial problems
• Health issues
• Pressures of work
• Young or adolescent children
• Separation and divorce
• Step families
• Depression / anxiety in one or both partners